Good Selfish

Self-Actualization

Who do you surround yourself with?
What are your gifts and demons?

When are you happiest and saddest?
Where are you in life right now?

Why are you there? 

How can you gain control of your life if you can't even control your Breath.  Take increasingly slower, longer breaths until you can hear your heart beat in your ears.  Then tell your heartbeat to slow down. 

Close your eyes and picture yourself through the eyes of the people you interact with on a daily basis.  Actually picture yourself lifting up out of your body and into their eyes to look at yourself in the third person.  On a scale of 1 (Bad) - 10 (Good) think about what you see.

Letting yourself think that bad things happen to you when really you are making bad decisions is very destructive.  There are endless options in everything we do.  Take a moment to figure them out.  Take responsibility for a bad decision, apologize immediately, move on. 

You are your actions.  They really are the sum total of you.  You can't believe how fast the act of being grateful makes life a little more pleasant.  If you're not thankful for something or someone you will lose them.   

You can understand who someone is without looking down at them.  After all, who the $#%* are you???  Judgement comes back like a kick in the gut every time.  Not passing judgement out loud is one part of the battle.  It may take a while but you need to find a way to stop thinking it too.  Life is just simpler and more copasetic without it. 

Imagine walking to the edge of the tallest cliff, closing your eyes and taking a step.  That is what if feels like to believe in your potential that you've never seen come to fruition.  Gets the heart pumping.  What if you fall?  Sometimes we come to a place in our lives where we're just tired of being afraid.  That moment usually follows shortly after a horrible tragedy and makes us appreciate our time in this life.  Being good at being you can turn that fear into an exhilerating challenge.   

The ability to listen is like the ability to breathe.  It can only be enjoyed once it slows down and you really give yourself over to it.  And remember, people aren't the only things worth listening to.  During your next conversation see how little you can say while paying full attention.  The more we allow in through the doors of our souls the more fulfilled we will feel.  Absorb your surroundings and wait for the obvious moment when it is time to give.   

We are not alone in this world.  We are all a part of a civilization that depends on all members of the community to operate together as a group.  Don't cut people off just because you don't know them and don't care what they think.  Care.  The more you consider the feelings of those around you the more likeable you are.  If you don't think you care what others think, you're delusional. 

Perhaps the hardest thing to do sometimes is say no, but that is exactly what you must learn to do if you're going to change relationships that just never get better.  There are a lot of ways to say no.  Saying no without harm and in such a way that draws much needed lines in the peaceful sands of your life will create enjoyable relationships.  We'd love to show you how. 

Letting go of the animosity created by the betrayal of those around you might be one of the most difficult challenges you can face when trying to achieve happiness.  It is truly an evolution of your spirit that allows you to let go of the bitter rage you might be feeling towards those who have hurt you.  Problem is, without it, nothing else matters.  It is perhaps the one tool that could unlock all the others if used correctly but also has the power to bring your peace to a screaching halt.  In order to forgive, one must be willing to accept the illnesses which can infect a person's soul and understand how they destroy your character.  You can make yourself impervious to such a plague and build a resistance to such people.  Let us show you how to set yourself free by learning to forgive.